On weddings and rings…
Last Thanksgiving, Brandon and I tried to refrain from gagging on pumpkin pie as his now cousin-by-marriage Renee flashed professionally-bound photo books of her marriage in Hawaii.
Eyes wide, his other 20 year-old cousin Carrie asked the blushing bride if her wedding was something she’d dreamed of since girlhood to which Renee giggled and gushed that it was indeed, her very dream to have a fairy book wedding.
Maybe I’m just abnormal, but I don’t think I ever once wondered or dreamed about my marriage nuptials before the age of, well, 27. In fact, I had just about resigned myself to the fact that I would become the crazy old lady surrounded by 20 cats until I met Brandon.
I’m still nowhere near becoming a Bridezilla but yes, I have thought about our wedding which will as far from a fairy tale wedding as Hillary is from becoming president.
For starters, I refuse to get married in some church, godless heathen that I am. I always wanted to get married at Ault Park but it’s very pricey. And then, I aim to either have a Buddhist monk officiate the ceremony, and if one isn’t available, a lesbian feminist minister of some religious persuasion like Wicca.
The reception will be both vegetarian and booze-free, which I hope lessens the number of RSVPs we receive. And, in lieu of gifts, I’d like donations to be made to Freedom to Marry, which advocates for gay rights.
Of course, we should probably set a date first.
Just as unconventional as my wedding will be, is my ring. Maybe not so unconventional considering diamonds only recently became a wedding ring tradition. But with its blood history, I didn’t want to wear exploitation on my finger. So instead my ring is made out of moissanite
Besides being slightly cheaper than diamonds, moissanites retain every bit the brilliance and luster of a diamond. A naturally occurring mineral, silicone carbide, moissanite was discovered in 1893 by Henri Moissan in an ancient meteor. Since there are no supplies of this mineral on earth, scientists create synthetic moissanite in a lab.
Below is a picture of my ring. It’s 14K white gold with a ½ carat center Charles & Colvard moissanite jewel.
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